Thursday, August 06, 2009


Lily has told me, repeatedly and in no uncertain terms that she wants earrings, like mine. At first she specified pink ones but now she wants purple. Stick on stickers were not enough. This child is convinced she wants her ears pierced.

I told her it would hurt. She responded "A little bit, Mama". She is undeterred.

Thoughts on early ear piercing? Not something I EVER thought I would do. But she's asking. BTW, I'm sure if Lily gets hers done Lucy is soon to follow - that's just how things work around here.


Deborah said...

I don't see how it could contribute to any early gender stereotyping ideas (i mean, she's the one who asked), and I think it's safe if you go to the right place. My only thought is to go somewhere they can go both at once, if you can. When I was 5 I got one pierced and declared it hurt too much to do the other. My mom had them take it out, and we tried again when I was six. So I've never understood the "not until you're 16" logic, like it's the beginning of belly shirts, shorts with writing on the butt, and more serious teen issues.

Susan said...

Julia wanted hers when she was about three. When she was five she didn't want them anymore and took her earrings out and the holes closed up. Both my boys had a pierced ear from kindergarten on, both took them out at some point. The only thing I would say is if you do go for it, have them do both ears at the same time. It hurts more than a little bit, but only for a short time. If they do them one at a time, she may not want the second one.

J-momma said...

well, i'm no expert, but if it were me, i'd say no. not because i didn't think she shouldn't or couldn't. but because i wouldn't want the extra work and responsibility of keeping the holes clean and free from infection and to keep them from closing up. but that's just me. i would want to wait until she was old enough to take care of them herself. but if you're up for the work, why not?

LBC said...

Oh, man, tough call!

I'd make my kid wait a bit. Because I am (a) a chicken myself when it comes to pain and (b) my first ear piercings got infected, grew closed and had to be done again.

But also, I would find it very hard to tell her no. And a lot of the things we want in life come with pain and/or hardship. If she knows it will hurt and wants it anyway...

Dream Mommy said...

First, is Lilly freed for adoption yet? If not, there's cw and bio parents to deal with. Other than that, I'd say go for it and do both at once.

JUST A MOM said...

will the state let you??????? Did I miss soemthign?

my girls got theirs when they were 5. yeah the spam thing gets me too,,, I MEAN REALLY GETS ME!

Amy said...

I vote no.

My mom wouldn't allow me to get my ears pierced until I was 13. I moped and moaned and begged and pleaded but she held firm and I'm so glad she did. I think she wanted to be sure that it was something I really wanted to do.

I remember every second of that day that we went out to get my ears pierced. I remember the first pair of earrings my mom bought me. I remember the lunch we had. I remember feeling so grown up and like I'd achieved a milestone in my life.

And (somewhat selfishly) I want that experience with Ava (if she wants her ears pierced, of course).

amyswor said...

Was looking for a friends blog and yours turned up in my search.

Was reading some of your blog and came across yours asking about piercing your dd's ear. We did at 2years old and did our dd, aged 4 mos at the same time. Hope you don't mind me posting my thoughts.

Asked our ped who urged me to go ahead when mommy can care for them. She gave me some suggestions for moms having their toddler's ears pierced including some OTC meds to minimize any discomfort. They worked fine and our she will look adorable with little gold studs in time for her B'day party!

If you'd like our ped's suggestions, write me an e-mail and I'll send them to you.