Thursday, April 26, 2007

And Thursday makes two...

She missed her visit today. I guess I don't have much more to say about that.

6 comments:

MommyNay said...

Hang in there Amanda. I remember how I felt when Mackenzie's bio dad got out of prison when she was 12months old and came forward with a court order for visitation(THAT DAY) and the judge gave him services(at our TPR hearing no less) Then the first visit came and he didnt show, and then he didnt show for his second, or third or 17th that is where we are at now. Luckly for you and Lily from the sounds of it if they no-show next week visits will be stopped. I was still made to go and sit in the office every week for 20minutes waiting for him not to show time and time again until last month when I said enough was enough. ((hugs))

Susan said...

Don't forget Amanda, she can request that visits be started again at any time. Stopping the visits just means that they won't be scheduled anymore. It means that she has to call and arrange a visit, rather than just show up.

Amanda is right; I've had to go sit at visit sites knowing a parent is not going to show up. It is better that they stop scheduling until she is ready to actually do them.

JUST A MOM said...

I am sorry but I am going to say wooo hhoooo I understand about the bio's feelings,,,,BUT at this point I think her feelings are some place OTHER THEN HER DAUGHTER. Have a great weekend

FosterMommy said...

Keep a notebook where you write down just the facts, ma'am. Dates and whether she attended the visit or not. Very likely, she will start visits back up (and just have to call prior to the visit to confirm, or something else like that) and then when she goes to court, the caseworker will say she has made all the visits. If she *hasn't*, then you have written proof. (That's why you just write the facts, so that a judge can look at it.)

I know how you feel, but realize that it's a long way from a couple missed visits to actual TPR. Flip back in my blog and you'll see.

Dream Mommy said...

yup, they are right about visits. Smiley's mom disappeared a couple months moving out of state, but as soon as she returned, visits were started again like nothing ever happened. She was also able to re-enroll in parenting classes she dropped out of and re-start the caseplan.

It's looking good for you anyway though, but it will be a long battle.

away2me said...

Starting visits, stopping visits, starting bonding, stopping bonding. So unfair for the children. The systems sucks so bad!